Tuesday, August 3, 2010

It's Official (officially)

August 3, 2010 was a big day for our family. It was Luci May Rediet's re-adoption day. The day we became "official" in the state of Nebraska and she received a Nebraska birth certificate. It is different in each state and I really didn't know what to expect. I knew it was an important day, but not a huge deal since she has been legally ours for over a year now.

I had planned on us wearing khaki's, polo's and casual skirts until Tate asked if he could wear his suit. Then he asked if Bill would wear his suit and suddenly we looked like we were headed to a big event. It turns out that we were. The first person who saw us asked if we were getting married. Nope. That was taken care of a long time ago. I thought we would walk into an office and sign a few papers. Then a judge would sign a few papers. Then would take a picture and leave. But that's not the way it was.

We were actually early, so we took a few pix to pass the time...
(looking at the Capitol)

(Tate has perfected the "I'm annoyed with your picture-taking" look)

(Jack has perfected the "I'm a charming little rascal" look)

(Lulu saw the boys posing for the pix above and insisted on doing the same pose)

(Look who found his littlest Cinderella)


Then we met the lawyer and walked into a real, live courtroom. The first thing our lawyer said was "Your honor, I would like the court to note that this is the most nicely dressed sibling set I have ever seen." Good call on wardrobe, Tate. Then she told me to take the stand to testify. Testify? WHAT?! We had no idea this was part of the deal.

She asked me some basic questions about Rediet's background and then she asked me to tell the court about the relationship between our biological children and Luci. I got a bit choked up as I described the love between them. She then asked me to talk about my relationship with Luci May. At that point, it was providential that the court keeps kleenex on the stand because I was overcome with emotion. After I answered all of her questions the Judge asked "Do you love her?" I had to laugh and repeated his question incredulously. "Do I love her?!" More tears and then an emphatic "YES!"

Then it was Bill's turn. The lawyer asked him what motivated us to adopt and he got to articulate our foundation being our own adoption by God through faith in Christ. Then came the pronouncement and signing of the official documents. And it was official. Again. After the judge left, our lawyer asked to pray with us. So we gathered around Lulu in that court room and prayed together which was the perfect ending to a beautiful experience...
We were not prepared to answer any questions today. We thought we would be in and out. No big deal. Instead, we testified in court for the first time. And what we testified to was the deep love we have for our daughter and we committed to raise her to the best of our ability. We were in a government building not a church, but we were standing on holy ground. It felt like a very, very big deal.
Because being a family is a big deal. A very, very big deal.

22 comments:

Thurieyyah said...

This is my favorite post to date! I had tears (of happiness) in my eyes!!!

Nikki said...

Ditto on the favorite post to date. I remember with our daughter that feeling in the court room. I too thought that the judge would just sign a couple of papers and we'd be done, but it's so much more than that. It was a beautiful day and I'm sure going to hold each one of our child's adoption days in my heart as an amazing day. Thanks for sharing and you all looked beautiful!

Tisha Alexander said...

Wow, that is a big deal!!! We getting get to do anything fun. Congrats! Love the outfits!

Amy said...

That is so nice you got to take pictures inside the courtroom. A friend of a friend had this same "official" adoption procedure done just two weeks ago in Lincoln and was told they couldn't take pictures. She was asked the same questions as you were and was also caught off-guard by them.

What a beautiful day, beautiful memories! Congrats!

Deena said...

BEAUTIFUL! What a wonderful experience. I had tears reading about it! You all looked beautiufl as well :)
Sounds like you had an awesome attorney too!
Congratulations!

Kristin said...

What a sweet and wonderful surprise that you got to 'testify' about the love for your child. Great pictures. I was teary with you.

I love you guys,
Kristin

Kristi J said...

oh, i love it..i can't believe you had to take the stand..wow...so sweet, kristi

Lori S said...

I stumbled on your blog via another blog. I love reading adoption stories.
What a beautiful day for your beautiful family!!

Mandy said...

I'm moving to Nebraska - where they make big deals over big deal adoptions. We just dropped the paperwork off at the courthouse and they called us to pick it up after the judge had signed it.
But - I love seeing what a beautiful day your family had. And, I'm not jealous or bitter toward Texas.
at all.
okay...maybe a little.
But - yay for Nebraska judges and the Kollar family!

JonesEthiopia said...

Congratulations! We still need to readopt E! Great pictures, too.

Katie said...

Oh, happy day!

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

YES!!! WE have been to court a few times...and sometimes they tried to "cut it short", but our lawyers have always let us testify....it is a beautiful thing! We get to stand up in court and say- YES to our children - again!!

The Hull's at #4 said...

BEAUTIFUL!! I got tears! Congratulations Lucy!!

nell ann said...

A VERY BIG DEAL, indeed! Congratulations -- officially!

Amber said...

You just sent me into the Ugly Cry. Congratulations! SUCH a big deal! Beautiful!

james said...

That is awesome! Gotta love those judges and their questions. ;)

Thankful for you and your family Missy!

Taylor said...

Awesome! And what a good looking family!
Taylor
(Lumberjack's Wife)

Mindee@ourfrontdoor said...

Awesome.

The gFamily said...

I just talked to Amber yesterday and we both can't believe what a small world this is!!

Congrats on becoming officially official! ;) I loved reading your story and LOVED that the judge prayed with you! That is SO neat!! I also loved that you all dressed up! Everyone looked beautiful!!

Just looking at Luci makes me excited to get our referral!!! She is just adorable!!!

The gFamily said...

I meant to say that I loved that your lawyer prayed with you! Oops! Mom brain!! ;)

Tracey said...

What a beautiful post. And what a tremendous testimony you were all able to give about our Lord Jesus.

Anonymous said...

Great post missy, also reminded me that we need to get on that re-adoption thing. If you can't dress up for that you shouldn't dress up for anything.