Sunday, August 3, 2008

A new kind of labor

I'm learning something about adoption as we move along in this process. I will not go into labor with our fourth child. But, there is a certain kind of labor involved. So far the paperwork has been a real labor of love. Neither one of us are really "details" kind of people. I can barely remember to enter things in the checkbook. Paperwork and I don't get along very well. But that is the first step in this process, the "paperchase". I don't mean to complain because 1)I'm sure those who have adopted would say that the waiting stage is much harder. At least there is something we can do right now to bring our child home. And 2) we will do whatever it takes to see our family completed as we add another member to our team.

But what I'm learning about my adoption experience is that this is "labor" for me. Not labor as in pain (I guess that comes later on), but labor as in work. Being a youngest child, I never have been a fan of the word labor in any sense. But I guess I am going to be in this kind of labor for the next couple of months, so I better get used to it. I want to call and ask for an epidural, but there is none available. I need to trust the Lord to wade through all these papers in a somewhat orderly fashion. It may not be my strength, but it is my calling. And, Lord willing, when I'm looking into two little brown eyes it's not going to matter how much of a stretch it was for me to get the paperwork done. Oh, how I look forward to that day!

Here we are with our box that had our big ol' binder of adoption paperwork. We look excited, but we're also petrified. In case you were wondering, I put lip gloss on before we took the picture. So, I may be freaking out, but I've got shiny lips!

7 comments:

Hilary Marquis said...

In the adoption process you are technically working on conceiving :) When your dossier is done and accepted you'll be "Paper Pregnant"...then comes the hard "Labor", seeing your child's face and having to wait to go get him or her. I wish there was an epidural, because the pain of leaving Anara in Kyrgyzstan was worse than any of the labor & deliveries I ever endured :) BUT, it IS worth all of it!!! And you can always come eat some rich desert with moi as pain management in the meantime!

Anonymous said...

Yahoo!!!

Anonymous said...

ummm...yeah. this is WAY harder than my pregnancies (and I had 4 days of hard labor with Ryan!) But... at least we can have margaritas this time around!! :) HA!
35 days til we meet our babies!!

congrats on your next step! celebrate them all!!! it'll keep you sane...

Chris and Jana said...

Yay! I can tell you that it is totally intimidating, but we were surprised on how fast it all comes together! Who are you doing your homestudy through?

Sloan said...

I love your blog! And I love you and your sweet love for Jesus!! Bless you as you journey towards bringing home your sweet little chosen gift from God!

asian~treasures said...

I PROMISE!!!! It WILL be totally worth it when those brown eyes look at yours & you know that's YOUR child!! PROMISE!! : )
Take the paperwork one piece at a time...you'll get through it. And, remember, I have names, emails & phone numbers for those crazy people at USCIS!!

Sheri

Daniela said...

Hey Missy-
So exciting. WE're thinking about adopting, too, but not as far along in the process as y'all yet. Can't wait to hear the whole story!

Love-
daniela