Tuesday, July 27, 2010

GOTCHA: Happy Luci May Day!

The night before I met you, Luci May Rediet, I felt like I was standing on the edge. Not the edge of a cliff like I was scared for what was below me. Instead I felt like I was standing on the edge of a promise. God's promise. Not a promise that our first meeting would go smoothly or that our transition would go well or that our baby would be healthy. But His promise to be my Daddy forever. His promise of unfailing love. And His promise to fulfill His purpose for me. And so fear was replaced with a new kind of waiting. A joyful anticipation of what was ahead of us. Not just in that blessed moment of first meeting our Rediet...
But also the anticipation of the years to come. Years of knowing you and loving you and watching you become. Years filled with the highs and lows of being a family. And today, we have had our first such year together. I had intended to commemorate this day with a 1 year video. I've seen many beautiful videos other families have done and it has been my intention since we returned to create one for this occasion.

But there was a teeny, tiny problem. I had no clue what I was doing. After about a year of procrastination and 3 late nights (as in 3am, 3:30am and 4:30am), I realized I had made a tragic error. I didn't realize the difference between a slideshow and a video. Unfortunately my blood, sweat, and late-night tears went into making a slideshow, not a video. You know, kind of like one a missionary would show in a church basement. Nothing wrong with that, but what I envisioned in my mind was more like something that would be shown on NBC. My delusions of grandeur are always getting me in trouble! I still desperately want to make my vision a reality, but clearly Smilebox is not the vehicle to get me where I want to go. If you have suggestions for me, please HELP! (P.s. I don't have a Mac.)

This snafu set the stage for several other less than ideal circumstances in our Luci May Day celebration. The Africa shaped cookies we set out to make turned out like this...
Totally burned (cooked for 30 minutes instead of 8-11) and formed together. My sister said it was like the Pangaea when all the continents were together before they drifted. Clever, but not what I had in mind for Lulu's celebration.

Then there was the little matter of giving in to the baby who didn't want to take a nap. It's a day named after her and all, so I figured she just wanted to get the most out of it. This was fine and dandy in the afternoon when she was happy and charming...
But didn't go over so well by the time evening rolled around and she was a Crabcake during our special dinner. Which was here...
If we adopt another little girl from Ethiopia, I think we have her name. LaliBela. How cute is that? Our LulaBella was definitely not feelin' the love for injera...
I have to admit, I can't blame her. Sadly, I do not enjoy Ethiopia's main food staple. The older kids tried things, but found most everything to be too spicy...
I can't blame them either. Truth be told, I am not a fan of much of the spicy Ethiopian food. But I am a HUGE fan of the people. And we go to meet a few of them at the restaurant like our waitress...
And the children of the owner...
And this guy...
Wait! He's not Ethiopian, he just dressed the part!

In time, Lulu warmed up and even enjoyed the corn...
From the restaurant we went on a family trip to Walmart to pick up donations to send with traveling families to the orphanage in Addis. We decided that this would be how we would celebrate each year. Instead of giving gifts to Lulu, we want to give gifts to the children and staff who are still in Ethiopia.
Then we stopped by my sister's house on our way back home and they had a surprise waiting for us...
No need for a burnt Pangaea now! I think Lulu likes chocolate chip cookie better than injera...

Sweet one who I first held one year ago, I don't know how you will feel about this day in years to come. It was truly one of the most beautiful and intense and magical days of my life. But it was all on the backdrop of loss. On your end and for your grandmother, there was so much loss. You were so scared that day. I see it more clearly now as I look at the pictures and since I know you now. But you can be confident of this, on our part there was so much gain. Immeasurable gain. For we got you...

Both in the gain and in the loss, this day is about family...
Through the gains and losses of the past and the gains and losses of the future, whatever road you walk in life...
We will walk it with you.

Thank you God for Luci May Day. Thank you God for Luci May. And thank you God for your great and precious promises. You walk us through our losses and You are my greatest Gain both now and forevermore.

17 comments:

Thurieyyah said...

HAPPY GOTCHA DAY LUCI MAY... and I hope your MOMMA loads a video soon!!! Its always so nice checking out your blog in the mornings - it always puts a smile on my face.

And one day when you read this - I hope your realise that you ARE a blessed little girl!!!!

HERE"S TO YEARS TO COME! (holds up imaginary champagne glass)

Mindee@ourfrontdoor said...

All in all Missy, I think you hit the perfect combo of Ethiopia and Kollar family in your celebration. And that's who Luci is, so it's all good.

And I LOVE your idea for gift giving on Luci May day.

Zach said...

Happy gotcha day Luci! On a side note, there is an Ethiopian restauraunt here in Gulu that I LOVE!! Injera, mmmm...

Bethany said...

Happy gotcha day Kollars!! Missy, I use an online site www.animoto.com to make videos. It will cost you $3, but it is worth every penny.

Love Is Patient said...

Dear Missy,
I just have to tell you I love your blog! I have followed it for over a year. You were eagerly anticipating bringing Luci May home and we had just gotten on the wait list with AGCI. Your posts are such an inspiration and you have such a God given gift for writing. I am usually laughing out loud (Barbies in the boys room) or crying.(so sorry about your mom, you can see the love there) Yeah for Luci May Day!!!
We just got back from ET 3 weeks ago. We brought home our 5 month old daughter, Abenee. I need to update our blog, it's terribly behind and on my "to do list." I have a hard time posting pictures, I can't even imagine trying to do a video but It's also on my list. I'm sure yours will be just perfect!!!

The B Family said...

What a beautiful post! Made me laugh. Made me cry. I love the way you write. Happy Luci May Day!

Kayla Joy said...

loved this! I hope the video works, I would love to see it. Looks like you had a beautiful day of celebration, even if the queen of the day got a little crabby in the end. :)

Amy said...

Happy Gotcha Day! What a fun celebration you had. I love how you are donating to the people of Ethiopia. What a great way to celebrate each year!

Kelly Jo said...

Can't believe it has already been a year!! Looks like yall had a great day!! :)

emily v. said...

Awesome post! I think words from a mama's heart are far more powerful than a fancy-smancy video any day! :) Your posts always make me laugh and cry...love your honesty and the way you just embrace being you! Keep it up Team Kollar!

PS: LOVE the idea of celebrating the Gotcha Day by giving things away instead of getting. We are going to use that idea too!

Joy!
Emily V.
VogeltanzFamily.com

Tisha Alexander said...

What a wonderful day!!!! Happy Gotcha Day sweet girl!!!

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

Congrats! Happy Gotcha Day!!!!

Amber said...

Happy Gotcha Day!!! Can't believe it's been a year already. Such a great post, too!

I use Animoto.com for making videos...you can use photos and video clips. Let me know if you need any help!

Hilary Marquis said...

Missy,

If you send me a Shutterfly link with the photos you want to include, I can make the montage for you. I'll need the passwords to get into your blog to load it since it would be too large to email...if you're okay with that, I'd love to help! Happy Gotcha Day, Luci May!

Mama Mimi said...

"we will walk it with you" = TEARS!!! That was a beautiful post! Happy Gotcha Day Luci May!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hi.
I am a friend of Bill's from college. I have been reading your blog the last year.
I happen to be taking a technology class. Use Windows Movie Maker--it is standard on Windows. You drop in your pictures and add muisic and highlights in between.

Dawn

Maria and Family said...

HAPPY GOTCHA DAY ;):) I think the top picture is my favorite yet ! what a beautiful family you have :) I love the idea of giving back on gotcha day, love it. our kids are blesse with so much stuff already, it is a wonderful lesson to teach them.